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as I was considering these things, taking me by the right hand, she led me into her appointed room and having sat me down beside her on the bed where she had travailed with me, she sent forth fountains of tears, and to her tears she added words more pitiful, lamenting to me such things as these. “I, my child,” she said, “was not permitted to enjoy the virtue of your father for long, for so it seemed good to God. For his death, succeeding my birth pangs for you, brought upon you an untimely orphanhood, and upon me an untimely widowhood and the terrors of widowhood, which only those who have suffered them can know well. For no words could describe that storm and tempest which a young woman endures, having just come from her father's house and being inexperienced in affairs, when she is suddenly struck with unbearable grief and is forced to bear cares greater than her age and nature. For she must, I think, correct the negligence of servants and watch for their mischief, fend off the plots of relatives, and nobly bear the insults and harshness of the tax collectors during the payment of tribute. And if the deceased leaves a child behind, if it is female, it will still cause its mother much anxiety, yet it is free from expense and fear; but a son fills her with countless fears and greater anxieties each day. For I pass over the monetary expense she is forced to endure, desiring to raise him in a manner befitting a free man. But nevertheless none of these things persuaded me to enter into a second marriage, nor to bring another bridegroom into your father's house. But I remained in the storm and turmoil, and did not flee the iron furnace of widowhood, helped first by aid from above. And it brought me no small consolation for those terrible things to continually see your face and to preserve for myself a living image of the deceased, one that was a good and exact likeness of him. For this very reason, even when you were still an infant and had not yet learned to speak, the time when children most delight their parents, you provided me with great comfort. And indeed you could not say or allege that while I bore my widowhood nobly, I diminished your paternal inheritance due to the necessity of widowhood, something which I know has happened to many who have been unfortunate enough to be orphans. For I kept it all intact, and I omitted none of the expenses required for your good reputation, spending from my own funds and from those I brought from home. And do not think that I say these things now to reproach you; but in return for all these things I ask one favor of you: do not cast me into a second widowhood, nor rekindle my grief which has now been put to sleep, but wait for my death. Perhaps I will depart after a short time. For the young have the hope of reaching a great old age; but we who are old await nothing else but death. When, therefore, you have committed me to the earth and mingled my bones with your father's, set out on long journeys and sail whatever sea you wish. Then there will be no one to hinder you. But as long as I breathe, endure to live with me. Do not offend God needlessly and rashly, by afflicting me with so many evils, when I have done you no wrong. For if you have cause to complain that I drag you into the cares of this life and force you to manage your own affairs, pay no respect to the laws of nature, nor to your upbringing, nor to custom, nor to anything else, but flee me as a plotter and an enemy; but if I do everything to provide you with much leisure for the journey of this life, even if there is nothing else, let this bond at least keep you with me. For even if you say you love ten thousand others, no one will allow you to enjoy so much freedom, since there is no one who cares for your good reputation as much as I do.” These things and more than these my mother said to me, and I to the

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ταῦτα βουλευόμενον, λαβοῦσά με τῆς δεξιᾶς, εἰσήγαγεν εἰς τὸν ἀποτεταγμένον οἶκον αὐτῇ καὶ καθίσασα πλησίον ἐπὶ τῆς εὐνῆς ἧς ἡμᾶς ὤδινε, πηγάς τε ἠφίει δακρύων καὶ τῶν δακρύων ἐλεεινότερα προσετίθη τὰ ῥήματα, τοιαῦτα πρὸς ἡμᾶς ἀποδυρομένη. «Ἐγώ, παιδίον, φησί, τῆς ἀρετῆς τοῦ πατρὸς τοῦ σοῦ οὐκ ἀφείθην ἀπολαῦσαι ἐπὶ πολύ, τῷ Θεῷ τοῦτο δοκοῦν· τὰς γὰρ ὠδῖνας τὰς ἐπὶ σοὶ διαδεξάμενος ὁ θάνατος ἐκείνου, σοὶ μὲν ὀρφανίαν, ἐμοὶ δὲ χηρείαν ἐπέστησεν ἄωρον καὶ τὰ τῆς χηρείας δεινὰ ἃ μόναι αἱ παθοῦσαι δύναιντ' ἂν εἰδέναι καλῶς. Λόγος γὰρ οὐδεὶς ἂν ἐφίκοιτο τοῦ χειμῶνος ἐκείνου καὶ τοῦ κλύδωνος ὃν ὑφίσταται κόρη, ἄρτι μὲν τῆς πατρῴας οἰκίας προελθοῦσα καὶ πραγμάτων ἄπειρος οὖσα, ἐξαίφνης δὲ πένθει τε ἀσχέτῳ βαλλομένη καὶ ἀναγκαζομένη φροντίδων καὶ τῆς ἡλικίας καὶ τῆς φύσεως ἀνέχεσθαι μειζόνων. ∆εῖ γάρ, οἶμαι, ῥαθυμίας τε οἰκετῶν ἐπιστρέφειν καὶ κακουργίας παρατηρεῖν, συγγενῶν ἀποκρούεσθαι ἐπιβουλάς, τῶν τὰ δημόσια εἰσπραττόντων τὰς ἐπηρείας καὶ τὴν ἀπήνειαν ἐν ταῖς τῶν εἰσφορῶν καταβολαῖς φέρειν γενναίως. Ἐὰν δὲ καὶ παιδίον καταλιπὼν ὁ τεθνεὼς ἀπέλθῃ, θῆλυ μὲν ὄν, πολλὴν καὶ οὕτω παρέξει τῇ μητρὶ τὴν φροντίδα, ὅμως δὲ καὶ ἀναλωμάτων καὶ δέους ἀπηλλαγμένην, ὁ δὲ υἱὸς μυρίων αὐτὴν φόβων καθ' ἑκάστην ἐμπίμπλησι τὴν ἡμέραν καὶ πλειόνων φροντίδων· τὴν γὰρ τῶν χρημάτων ἐῶ δαπάνην ὅσην ὑπομένειν ἀναγκάζεται, ἐλευθερίως αὐτὸν θρέψαι ἐπιθυμοῦσα. Ἀλλ' ὅμως οὐδέν με τούτων ἔπεισε δευτέροις ὁμιλῆσαι γάμοις, οὐδὲ ἕτερον ἐπεισαγαγεῖν νυμφίον τῇ τοῦ πατρὸς οἰκίᾳ τοῦ σοῦ· ἀλλ' ἔμενον ἐν τῇ ζάλῃ καὶ τῷ θορύβῳ, καὶ τὴν σιδηρᾶν τῆς χηρείας οὐκ ἔφυγον κάμινον, πρῶτον μὲν ὑπὸ τῆς ἄνωθεν βοηθουμένη ῥοπῆς. Ἔφερε δέ μοι παραμυθίαν οὐ μικρὰν τῶν δεινῶν ἐκείνων καὶ τὸ συνεχῶς τὴν σὴν ὄψιν ὁρᾶν καὶ εἰκόνα μοι τοῦ τετελευτηκότος φυλάσσεσθαι ἔμψυχον καὶ πρὸς ἐκεῖνον ἀπηκριβωμένην καλῶς. ∆ιά τοι τοῦτο καὶ ἔτι νήπιος ὢν καὶ μηδὲ φθέγγεσθαί πω μαθών, ὅτε μάλιστα τέρπουσι τοὺς τεκόντας οἱ παῖδες, πολλήν μοι παρεῖχες τὴν παράκλησιν. Καὶ μὴν οὐδὲ ἐκεῖνο ἂν ἔχοις εἰπεῖν καὶ αἰτιάσασθαι ὅτι τὴν μὲν χηρείαν γενναίως ἠνέγκαμεν, τὴν δὲ οὐσίαν σοι τὴν πατρῴαν ἠλαττώσαμεν διὰ τὴν τῆς χηρείας ἀνάγκην, ὅπερ πολλοὺς τῶν ὀρφανίᾳ δυστυχησάντων οἶδα παθόντας ἐγώ. Καὶ γὰρ καὶ ταύτην ἀκέραιον ἐφύλαξα πᾶσαν, καὶ τῶν ὀφειλόντων εἰς τὴν εὐδοκίμησιν δαπανηθῆναι τὴν σὴν ἐνέλιπον οὐδέν, ἐκ τῶν ἐμαυτῆς καὶ ὧν ἦλθον οἴκοθεν ἔχουσα δαπανῶσα χρημάτων. Καὶ μή τοι νομίσῃς ὀνειδίζουσάν με ταῦτα λέγειν νῦν· ἀλλ' ἀντὶ πάντων σε τούτων μίαν αἰτῶ χάριν, μή με δευτέρᾳ χηρείᾳ περιβαλεῖν, μηδὲ τὸ κοιμηθὲν ἤδη πένθος ἀνάψαι πάλιν, ἀλλὰ περίμεινον τὴν ἐμὴν τελευτήν· ἴσως μετὰ μικρὸν ἀπελεύσομαι χρόνον. Τοὺς μὲν γὰρ νέους ἐλπὶς καὶ εἰς γῆρας ἥξειν μακρόν· οἱ δὲ γεγηρακότες ἡμεῖς οὐδὲν ἕτερον ἢ τὸν θάνατον ἀναμένομεν. Ὅταν οὖν με τῇ γῇ παραδῷς καὶ τοῖς ὀστέοις τοῦ πατρὸς ἀναμίξῃς τοῦ σοῦ, στέλλου μακρὰς ἀποδημίας καὶ πλέε θάλατταν ἣν ἂν ἐθέλῃς· τότε ὁ κωλύσων οὐδείς. Ἕως δ' ἂν ἐμπνέωμεν, ἀνάσχου τὴν μεθ' ἡμῶν οἴκησιν· μὴ προσκρούσῃς Θεῷ μάτην καὶ εἰκῇ, τοσούτοις ἡμᾶς περιβάλλων κακοῖς ἠδικηκότας οὐδέν. Εἰ μὲν γὰρ ἔχεις ἐγκαλεῖν ὅτι σὲ εἰς βιωτικὰς περιέλκω φροντίδας καὶ τῶν πραγμάτων ἀναγκάζω προστῆναι τῶν σῶν, μὴ τοὺς τῆς φύσεως νόμους, μὴ τὴν ἀνατροφήν, μὴ τὴν συνήθειαν, μηδὲ ἄλλο μηδὲν αἰδεσθῇς, ὡς ἐπιβούλους φεῦγε καὶ πολεμίους· εἰ δὲ ἅπαντα πράττομεν ὑπὲρ τοῦ πολλήν σοι παρασκευάσαι σχολὴν εἰς τὴν τοῦ βίου τούτου πορείαν, εἰ καὶ μηδὲν ἕτερον, οὗτος γοῦν κατεχέτω σε παρ' ἡμῖν ὁ δεσμός. Κἂν γὰρ μυρίους σε λέγῃς φιλεῖν, οὐδείς σοι παρέξει τοσαύτης ἀπολαῦσαι ἐλευθερίας, ἐπειδὴ μηδὲ ἔστι τις ὅτῳ μέλει τῆς σῆς εὐδοκιμήσεως ἐξ ἴσης ἐμοί.» Ταῦτα καὶ τὰ τούτων πλείονα πρὸς ἐμὲ μὲν ἡ μήτηρ, ἐγὼ δὲ πρὸς τὸν