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The same said, that to please everyone is most difficult. Socrates. Those who disregard friendship, even if they escape the punishment from those they have wronged

escape punishment; still, they do not escape the punishment from God. To love at the wrong time is equal to hating. Do not fear a genuine friend in bad times. The same, asking Croesus what most precious thing he had from his kingdom; then

when he said, "To pursue enemies, and to benefit friends;" How much more gracefully, he said, would you have acted, if you had converted them to friendship.

Democritus. Not being able to help friends is a sign of helplessness, but not wanting to is a sign of wickedness.

761 Of Clitarchus. Consider the misfortunes of friends as your own; but share your own good fortunes.

When friends have died, it is not noble to lament; but to provide for their relatives is a duty.

Cato. Money is not friends, but friends are a treasure. And money could never produce friendship, just as the earth could not produce God; but friendship could easily acquire money, just as God could acquire the earth.

Just as you do not hate a bee for its sting, but care for it for its fruit; so too, do not turn away from a friend for a rebuke, but love him for his goodwill.

15Ε_068 Whoever has fled a grieving friend is not worthy to enjoy a rejoicing one.

Of Menander. And one must love as if one will also hate. And hate as if one will also love. Gold knows how to be tested by fire, But goodwill toward friends is judged by circumstance. He who flatters a prosperous friend at the right time, Is a friend of the circumstance, not of the friend. You will not acquire true friends before you drive away the worthless ones. I have never desired to please the many. For the things that pleased them, I did not

learn; and the things I knew were far from their disposition. Socrates. Those who pass by their brothers and seek other friends,

are similar to those who leave their own land and farm that of another. Of Critias. Whoever associates with his friends by doing everything to please them, the immediate

pleasure establishes enmity for a later time. Of Polyaenus. The more you benefit a friend, so much the more

will you advance your own advantage. For the goodwill from them returns back to us. Of Cypselus. To friends in good fortune and in bad, be the same. Of Epictetus. One must flee the friendship of the wicked and the enmity of the good. Sextus. Do not acquire a friend in whom you do not trust everything. Of Cyrus. When someone sent him much adornment, he gave it to his friends. Having been asked

why he did not keep any for himself, he said: "Because my body could not be adorned with all these things; but seeing my friends adorned, I will seem to have the greatest adornment laid up for myself."

15Ε_070 Timon. Timon the misanthrope, having been asked why he hates all men, said: "Because I hate the wicked with good reason; and the rest, because they do not hate the wicked."

Romulus.Romulus, being accused because he associated with wicked men, said: "Physicians also associate with the sick; but they themselves are healthy."

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Ὁ αὐτός ἔλεγεν, ὅτι τό πᾶσιν ἀρέσαι δυσχερέστατόν ἐστιν. Σωκράτης. Οἱ φιλίαν παραθεωροῦντες, κἄν τήν ἐκ τῶν ἠδικημένων

ἐκφύγωσι τιμωρίαν· ἀλλ᾿ οὖν γε τήν ἐκ Θεοῦ τιμωρίαν οὐ διακρούονται. Φιλεῖν ἀκαίρως, ἴσον ἐστί τοῦ μισεῖν. Φίλον γνήσιον ἐν κακοῖς μή φοβοῦ Ὁ αὐτός ἐπερωτῶν Κροῖσον, τί παρά τῆς βασιλείας ἔσχε τιμιώτατον· εἶτα

ἐκείνου εἰρηκότος, Τό τούς ἐχθρούς μετελθεῖν, καί φίλους εὐεργετεῖν· Πόσῳ μᾶλλον, ἔφη, χαριέστερον ἐποίησας, εἴ καί τούτους εἰς φιλίαν μετετρόπωσας.

∆ημοκρίτ. Τό μή δύνασθαι βοηθεῖν τοῖς φίλοις, ἀπορίας, τό δέ μή βούλεσθαι, κακίας τεκμήριον.

761 Κλειτάρχου. Σεαυτοῦ τά ἀτυχήματα τῶν φίλων ἡγοῦ· τῶν δέ ἰδίων εὐτυχημάτων κοινώνει.

Τελευτησάντων τῶν φίλων, θρηνεῖν μέν οὐκ εὐγενές· προνοεῖν δέ τῶν οἰκείων, ἐπιμελές.

Κάτων. Οὐ τά χρήματα φίλοι, ἀλλ᾿ οἱ φίλοι χρήματα. Καί χρήματα μέν, φιλίαν οὐδέποτε ἄν ἐργάσαιτο, ὥσπερ οὐδέ ἡ γῆ Θεόν· φιλία δέ χρήματα ῥᾳδίως κτήσαιτο [κτίσ.], καθάπερ καί Θεός γῆν.

Ὥσπερ μέλιτταν οὐ διά τό κέντρον μισεῖς, ἀλλά διά τόν καρπόν τημελεῖς· οὕτω καί φίλον, μή δι᾿ ἐπίπληξιν ἀποστραφῇς, ἀλλά διά τήν εὔνοιαν ἀγάπα.

15Ε_068 Ὅστις φίλον λυπούμενον ἔφυγεν, οὐδέ τοῦ χαίροντος ἀπολαύειν ἄξιος.

Μενάνδρου. Καί φιλεῖν δεῖ ὡς καί μισήσοντας. Καί μισέειν ὡς καί φιλήσοντας. Χρυσός μέν οἶδε δοκιμάζεσθαι πυρί, Ἡ πρός φίλους δ᾿ εὔνοια καιρῷ κρίνεται. Ὁ καιρῷ εὐτυχοῦντα κολακεύων φίλον, Καιροῦ φίλος πέφυκεν, οὐχί τοῦ φίλου. Οὐ πρότερον ἀληθινούς φίλου κτῆσαι, πρίν τούς φαύλους ἀποδιώξῃς. Οὐδέποτε ὠρέχθην τοῖς πολλοῖς ἀρέσκειν. Ἅ μέν γάρ ἐκείνοις ἤρεσκεν, οὐκ

ἔμαθον· ἅ δ᾿ ᾔδειν ἐγώ μακράν ἦν τῆς ἐκείνων διαθέσεως. Σωκράτης. Οἱ ἀδελφούς παριόντες, καί ἄλλους φίλους ζητοῦντες,

παραπλήσιοί εἰσι τοῖς τήν ἑαυτῶν γῆς ἐῶσι, τήν δέ ἀλλοτρίαν γεωργοῦσι. Κριτίου. Ὅστις τοῖς φίλοις πάντα πρός χάριν πράσσων ὁμιλεῖ, τήν παραυτίκα

ἡδονήν ἔχθραν καθίστησιν εἰς ὕστερον χρόνον. Πολυαίνου. Ὅσῳ ἄν πλεῖον εὐεργετήσεις τόν φίλον, τοσοῦτῳ μᾶλλον τό

σαυτοῦ συμφέρον ποιήσεις. Ἀντεπιστρέφει γάρ πάλιν εἰς ἡμᾶς ἡ ἐξ ἐκείνων εὔνοια. Κυψέλου. Φίλοις εὐτυχοῦσι καί ἀτυχοῦσιν, ὁ αὐτός ἴσθι. Ἐπικτήτου. Φεύγειν δεῖ κακῶν φιλίαν καί ἀγαθῶν ἔχθραν. Σέξτ. Μή κτήσῃ φίλον, ᾧ μή πάντα πιστεύεις. Κύρου. Πέμψαντος αὐτῷ τινος κόσμον πολύν, δέδωκε τοῖς φίλοις. Ἐρωτηθείς

δέ, διατί οὐχ ὑπελείπετο αὐτῷ, ἔφη· Ὅτι τό μέν ἐμόν σῶμα οὐκ ἄν δύναιτο πᾶσι τούτοις κοσμεῖσθαι· φίλους δέ κεκοσμημένους ὁρῶν, μέγιστον ἑμαυτῷ κόσμον ἀποκεῖσθαι δόξω.

15Ε_070 Τίμων. Τίμων ὁ μισάνθρωπος, ἐρωτηθείς διατί πάντας ἀνθρώπους μισεῖ, εἶπε· ∆ιότι τούς μέν πονηρούς εὐλόγως μισῶ· τούς δέ λοιπούς, ὅτι οὐ μισοῦσι τούς πονηρούς.

Ῥωμύλ.Ῥωμύλος ἐγκαλούμενος ὅτι πονηροῖς ἀνθρώποις σύνεστιν, ἔφη· Καί οἱ ἰατροί τοῖς νοσοῦσιν· ἀλλ᾿ αὐτοί ὑγιαίνουσιν.