S. AURELII AUGUSTINI HIPPONENSIS EPISCOPI DE BONO CONJUGALI LIBER UNUS .
17. Posse sane fieri nuptias ex male conjunctis, honesto postea placito consequente, manifestum est.
31. From this obedience that Father, who was not without a wife, was prepared to be without an only son,83 Retract. b. ii. c. 22. 2. “I do not quite approve this; as one should rather believe that he believed his son would presently be restored to him by resurrection, as we read in the Epistle to the Hebrews.” and that slain by himself. For I shall not without due cause call him an only son, concerning whom he heard the Lord say, “In Isaac shall there be called for thee a seed.84 Gen. xxi. 12” Therefore how much sooner would he hear it, that he should be even without a wife, if this he were bidden? Wherefore it is not without reason that we often consider, that some of both sexes, containing from all sexual intercourse, are negligent in obeying precepts, after having with so great warmth caught at the not making use of things that are allowed. Whence who doubts that we do not rightly compare unto the excellence of those holy fathers and mothers begetting sons, the men and women of our time, although free from all intercourse, yet in virtue of obedience inferior: even if there had been wanting to those men in habit of mind also, what is plain in the deed of the latter. Therefore let these follow the Lamb, boys singing the new song, as it is written in the Apocalypse, “who have not defiled themselves with women:”85 Rev. xiv. 4 for no other reason than that they have continued virgins. Nor let them on this account think themselves better than the first holy fathers, who used marriage, so to speak, after the fashion of marriage. Forsooth the use of it is such, as that, if in it there hath taken place through carnal intercourse aught which exceeds necessity of begetting, although in a way that deserves pardon, there is pollution. For what doth pardon expiate, if that advance cause no pollution whatever? From which pollution it were strange if boys following the Lamb were free, unless they continued virgins.
31. Ex hac obedientia pater ille qui sine uxore non fuit, esse sine unico filio et a se occiso paratus fuit . Unicum enim non immerito dixerim, de quo audivit a Domino, In Isaac vocabitur tibi semen (Gen. XXI, 12). Quanto ergo citius, ut etiam sine uxore esset, si hoc 0394 juberetur, audiret? Unde non frustra saepe miramur nonnullos utriusque sexus ab omni concubitu continentes, negligenter obedire praeceptis, cum tam ardenter arripuerint non uti concessis. Unde quis dubitat et excellentiae sanctorum illorum patrum atque matrum filios generantium non recte comparari mares et feminas nostri temporis, quamvis ab omni concubitu immunes, in virtute obedientiae minores; etiamsi illis hominibus et in habitu animi defuisset, quod in istorum opere manifestum est? Sequantur ergo Agnum pueri cantantes canticum novum, sicut in Apocalypsi scriptum est, qui cum mulieribus se non contaminaverunt (Apoc. XIV, 4); non ob aliud nisi quia virgines permanserunt. Nec ideo se arbitrentur meliores esse primis patribus sanctis, qui nuptiis, ut ita dicam, nuptialiter usi sunt . Earum quippe usus ita se habet, ut si quid in eis per carnis commixtionem, quod excedat generandi necessitatem, quamvis venialiter factum fuerit, contaminatio sit. Nam quid expiat venia, si omnino non contaminat illa progressio? A qua contaminatione mirum si immunes essent pueri sequentes Agnum, nisi virgines permanerent.