Chapter 3 [III.]—Conjugal Chastity the Gift of God.
That chastity in the married state is God’s gift, is shown by the most blessed Paul, when, speaking on this very subject, he says: “But I would that all men were even as I myself: but every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.”12 1 Cor. vii. 7. Observe, he tells us that this gift is from God; and although he classes it below that continence in which he would have all men to be like himself, he still describes it as a gift of God. Whence we understand that, when these precepts are given to us in order that we should do them, nothing else is stated than that there ought to be within us our own will also for receiving and having them. When, therefore, these are shown to be gifts of God, it is meant that they must be sought from Him if they are not already possessed; and if they are possessed, thanks must be given to Him for the possession; moreover, that our own wills have but small avail for seeking, obtaining, and holding fast these gifts, unless they be assisted by God’s grace.
CAPUT III.
3. Pudicitia conjugalis donum Dei. De infidelium pudicitia difficultas. Pudicus verus nonnisi fidelis. Donum Dei esse etiam pudicitiam conjugalem, beatissimus Paulus ostendit, ubi de hac re loquens ait: Volo autem omnes homines esse sicut me ipsum: sed unusquisque proprium donum habet a Deo; alius quidem sic , alius vero sic (I Cor. VII, 7). Ecce et hoc donum esse dixit a Deo; etsi inferius quam illa continentia, in qua omnes volebat esse sicut se ipsum, tamen, donum a Deo. Unde intelligimus, cum haec praecipiuntur, ut fiant, nihil aliud ostendi, quam inesse nobis oportere ad haec accipienda et habenda etiam propriam voluntatem. Cum vero Dei dona esse monstrantur, a quo petenda sint, discitur, si non habentur; et cui sint agendae gratiae, si habentur; nostrasque voluntates ad haec expetenda, sumenda, retinenda parum valere, nisi divinitus adjuventur.