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him, we shall always be both with Christ and with each other, with greater pleasure. I prefer your love to all things, and nothing is so difficult or burdensome to me as ever being at odds with you; even if it is necessary to lose everything, even to become poorer than Irus, even to undergo the utmost dangers, even to suffer anything at all, all things are endurable and bearable for me, as long as my relations with you are good; and the children will then be dear to me, as long as you are well-disposed toward us. And it will be necessary for you to do these things. Then mix in also the apostolic sayings, that thus God wishes our goodwill to be cemented. For hear the Scripture saying: For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall be joined to his wife. Let there be no pretext for small-mindedness for us; away with money, and a multitude of slaves, and honors from without; for me, this is more precious than all. Of how much gold, of how many treasures, will these words not be more desirable to a wife? Do not fear that, being loved, she may ever become senseless against you, but confess that you love her. For courtesans, entangling themselves now with this one, now with that one, would reasonably be puffed up against their lovers when they hear such words; but a free woman and a noble maiden would never be puffed up by these words, but much rather is even won over. Show that you value her company highly, and prefer to be at home because of her, rather than in the marketplace; and prefer her to all your friends, and to the children from her, and let them also be loved by you for her sake. If she does something good, praise and admire it; if something foolish, such as happens with young women, advise and remind her. Up and down, decry money and luxury, and point out the adornment that comes from propriety and from modesty, and continually teach what is expedient. 9. Let your prayers be in common; let each go forth to the church, and for the things said and read there, let the husband ask an account from the wife at home, and she from the husband. If some poverty should take hold, bring into your midst the holy men, Paul, Peter, who were more highly esteemed than all kings and rich men, and how they lived their lives in hunger and in thirst; teach her that there is nothing dreadful in life, except only to offend God. If one marries thus, on these terms, he will not be much inferior to the monks, nor will the married man be inferior to the unmarried. If you wish also to provide breakfasts and to hold feasts, invite no one indecent, no one disorderly, but if you should find some poor saint who is able to bless your house, able with the tread of his feet to bring in all the blessing of God, call him. And shall I say another thing? Let no one of you be eager to marry a wealthier woman, but much rather a poorer one. For she will not bring in as much occasion for pleasure from the money she contributes as she will displeasure from her reproaches, from her demanding more than she brought in, from her insolence, from her luxury, from her burdensome words. For she will perhaps say: I have not yet spent any of your things, I am still wearing my own, from what my parents have given me. What are you saying, O woman? you are still wearing your own things? And what could be more miserable than this saying? 62.148 you no longer have your own body, and you have your own money? You are no longer two fleshes after the marriage, but have become one; and are your possessions two, and not one? O the love of money! one man, one living being you both have become, and still you say, "My things"? This accursed and foul saying was brought in by the devil. God made all things more necessary than these common to us, and are these not common? It is not possible to say, "my light," "my sun," "my water;" all the greater things are common to us, but money is not common? Let the money perish ten thousand times, or rather, not the money, but the dispositions that do not know how to use money, but prefer it to all things. And teach these things along with the others; but with much grace. For since she

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